I’m Alexis Buhrman
I’m so glad you’re here!
I work with women who feel like they put everyone else’s needs first and are tired of showing up in their own lives in the supporting role instead of the part of the main character—the role that only they were born to play.
I help my clients become the main characters of their stories by adding more joy, purpose, and pleasure to their lives. From that first cup of coffee and the clothes they wear to the feel-good goals they work to achieve, it’s about creating a life that lights you up and fills your cup – in both the big moves and the little everyday moments.
Showing up as the main character isn’t about being selfish but honoring what’s in your best self-interest. Note more guilt for saying yes to yourself—no more resentment or anger toward other people. When your cup is full of joy, that joy overflows to everyone around you. That’s what it means to be the main character.
Before I trained to become a coach, I worked in advertising for 15+ years. I had a good job, a great marriage, a house full of fur babies, good friends, and an active social life. On the outside, things looked pretty good.
But I was tired, fried, and burned out. I was the queen of putting everything – especially work – before my needs and living my life in a supporting role.
But isn’t that what we’re supposed to do if we want to be happy?
I felt like I did #allthethings I was “supposed” to do, and all I got was this lousy t-shirt?! I checked the right boxes, wasn’t happiness supposed to be guaranteed?
So, I burned it all down. I stopped making excuses and started making changes – because I was the problem. I chose to live in the supporting role (even though part of this stems from being a woman in our culture…thanks patriarchy), but I could choose to move into the spotlight and start saying YES to myself, my health, my joy, and my needs.
I found a career that brings me an immense sense of purpose. I started adding joy (main character moments) to all the little, everyday things – no more waiting for a vacation or a special occasion to experience pleasure. I cut out the major stressors, the crap I was tolerating in my life, and experienced more peace. I let life be easy.
If you’re hungry for happiness and ready to give yourself permission to become the main character of your story, I would be LOVE to join you on the journey. I promise you are worth the effort, and you don’t have to burn down your life to start changing it. You just have to get started.
When I’m not coaching, I’m going on adventures with my husband, Eric, cooking and eating with both hands, mixing a cocktail, and cuddling our rescue pets. (Currently, Rocket, Adrian, and Grendel). I am currently obsessed with Ted Lasso, Succession, and House of the Dragon.
I believe that love is love, black lives matter, all bodies deserve unbiased healthcare, and science is real.
I take imperfect action and participate in ongoing education to be a better ally. This includes reading books, attending webinars, having conversations, and taking social welfare classes online and at the University of Nebraska.
When hiring coaches, contractors or other small businesses, I invest in BIPOC-, LGBTQI- and women-owned businesses.
I donate to Planned Parenthood nationally and several organizations locally in my hometown of Anchorage, AK each year.