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Alexis Buhrman

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Thing You Ever Wore?

What's the BestBest

Thing You Ever Wore?

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Alexis Buhrman sitting in a chair in a living room with her legs crossed, smiling at the camera

Can you remember your favorite outfit or piece of clothing? Was it the first cashmere sweater you could finally afford? What you wore on your wedding day? Maybe it was the splatter paint pants and hot pink t-shirt you rocked with your home perm on the first day of school? (okay, this is me because, the 80s). Most of us can remember a time when an outfit made us feel amazing and confident.

As we get older, our bodies, lives, personalities, and lifestyles change, but our clothes don’t change with them.

Our closets are packed, but we have nothing to wear. We hang on to jeans that fit a decade ago or tops we bought on sale and never wore because we don’t really love them. Shoes that pinch, bras that squish, and the handful of things we’ve been meaning to take for alterations (since 2020) take up space in our wardrobes. Over time, we forget what it was like to feel amazing in our clothes and just how much of an impact they have on our confidence. If you can relate, you’re in the right place.

If your closet needs a little upgrade or a full-on exorcism, I’m your gal.

Relax. I’ve got you covered, and this is going to be fun!

Personalized Style Style Coaching

Personalized Style StyleCoaching

Because Style is for
Every Budget & Every Body!

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This Program is for you if:

  • Your mornings leave you feeling stressed because you have nothing to wear
  • Your closet is full of things you settled for that don’t really express who you are
  • You’ve been waiting on the weight to buy new clothes
  • You’ve been hanging on to skinny jeans, pre-baby clothes, or outdated outfits for more than a couple of years, and they’re a constant reminder of a different version of yourself. (We want to make room for the person you are today!)
  • You never identified your personal style, and you’re excited to take the first step
  • You have some good clothing items but struggle to turn them into complete outfits
  • You want to learn how to ethically shop second-hand
  • You need advice as you grow your collection of investment pieces
  • Or this just sounds like fun!
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hello!

I’m Alexis. I cannot wait to help you create a confident, Main Character Closet™.

The main character is the focus of every great story. So often in life, we put everyone else first. Our jobs, spouses, and kids somehow become the main character of our own stories and we end up playing a supporting role. We forget what it feels like to honor our needs, wants and dreams – if we even remember what they were! All that forgetting starts to chip away at our confidence.

Being the main character in your life looks like stepping out of the supporting role and into the spotlight of your life. It’s saying YES to yourself and what feels good, and that includes how you choose to dress your body in every stage and age of life.

In my 20-year advertising career, I’ve “dressed” hundreds of brands and campaigns, helping organizations find their voice and express themselves visually. I would love to help you find a style that reflects who you are, fills you with confidence and makes you feel like the whole main damn character!

Let’s be honest, our closets can really destroy our confidence. As someone who’s been many sizes, I know how frustrating it can feel when your clothes don’t fit your body or personality. You might be hanging onto them in case you lose the weight, because they fit (but you don’t love them) or because you got them on sale.

I know the feeling of stress, dread, and disappointment when you battle your closet every morning, hoping you’ll find something to wear, and lose. But friend, I also know what it feels like to open your closet and feel inspired and excited to get dressed. For shopping and putting together an outfit to feel EASY! To not just like but LOVE your clothes, whether they’re fancy dresses or jeans and sweatshirts.

If you’re tired of the daily cycle of closet frustration, and ready to build a kick-ass closet full of affordable, lifestyle-appropriate, and FUN main character looks, you’re right where you need to be. Welcome!

the Main Character Closet™
style coaching VIP  Day

the Main Character Closet™
style coaching VIP  Day

Let's find your style
so you can
become
the main character main character

Let's find your style
so you can
become
the main character main character

Your vip day:

Your 4.5-Hour VIP Day with me is broken into tHREE parts:
Review, Redesign, and Recommend.

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Review:

Before your VIP day, you’ll access a private portal with assessments and exercises. This includes everything from information about your current style, challenges, and your budget. You’ll also choose some of your favorite clothes and accessories to bring to our call.

This background prework will help me put together recommendations and a customized plan that fits and addresses your needs. We’ll kick off your VIP day with a review of your prework and current style situation.

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Redesign:

Next, we’ll focus on the future. What story do you want to tell with your style? How do you want to express yourself? How do you want to FEEL in your clothes? We’ll work together to identify and agree upon goals for our time together.

Once established, we get into action. We’ll review the clothes and accessories you bring to the call, and identify the gaps we need to fill in your closet. We’ll make a list of what you need and prioritize it based on your goals. No more shopping without a plan!

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Recommend:

With your prioritized shopping list and goals in hand, you’ll learn how to shop quickly and easily using my signature process, the Main Character Closet™ Style Strategy. This is my secret sauce. It will help you turn items into outfits and make shopping a breeze.

We’ll wrap up the day putting the strategy into practice. I’ll bring brand recommendations based on your style goals, body and budget. Over screen share, I’ll show you some of my favorite places to shop online, and how to use search and filter tricks so you can get what you need quickly. No more getting sucked into buying random things!

Your follow-up call:

your 60-minute follow-up support call:

After our VIP Day wraps, you’ll practice what you learned on your own and start styling and shopping for yourself. YAY! But what if you need advice about an item you’re about to purchase? What if you’re not quite sure which top goes with which bottom?

I’ve got you covered! The program includes an hour of support over Zoom! You can share your shopping carts with me, so I can review your purchases before you buy or to try on your new purchases and get feedback on what to keep and return.

Imagine how different you could feel about your style – and yourself – in just 30 days!

Imagine how much time you’ll get back, and money you’ll save because you know what to buy and where to buy it!

YOUR INVESTMENT: $1,500 (payment plans available)

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Want to learn More?

Want to learn More?

Fill out a short application questionnaire.

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Frequently
Asked Questions

Frequently
Asked Questions

I’m on a budget. Do I have to spend thousands of dollars on new  clothes?

No! I work with people with various budgets, and most aren’t spending thousands of dollars on clothes. As a huge fan of shopping gently used clothing and accessories and shopping seasonal sales. I’ll work with you on where to shop to get the most out of your budget and how to budget for special purchases so you can continue building your closet over time. In the program, we start with what you already have in your closet and identify where there are gaps in your wardrobe so you’re spending wisely. We’ll fill your closet with a mix of fun fashion and key pieces that will have staying power over time.

We have different styles. Are you sure you can help  me?
For 20 years as a designer, my job has always been to help my clients express their image to the world. My own personal style is how I choose to express myself to the world, but this is my style. Personal style is just that – personal. You don’t have to love how I express myself because my style is my own, and your style will be unique to you. I won’t tell you what I think you should buy or how to dress. I’ll help you bring that out of yourself, and once you’ve found it, I’ll help you bring it all together so you can show up every day with confidence and main character energy.
I’m plus-sized, nonbinary, or disabled. Is this program  inclusive?

I deeply believe that style is for everyone. Unfortunately, the fashion industry hasn’t made it easy for all people to feel included. When I work with my clients, I focus on their individual needs and style goals. One great thing about personal style is how it can be used to express ourselves – our gender, identity, personality, and creativity. I am honored to work with a variety of identities and work with anyone who wants to explore their personal style. As a big sister to a person with Cerebral Palsy, I understand that it’s not just about how we look but how clothing, shoes, and accessories fit and feel. It’s important to me that all my clients feel as good as they look, and that can be achieved without sacrificing one or the other. Based on your needs and wants (provided in your prework assignments), I’ll bring personalized brand recommendations to our VIP day call.

Do you suggest I buy all my clothes  online?

No. There are pros and cons to shopping online and in person. Shopping online has benefits because it’s easier to find specific things online. Google can search for the most specific items, down to the color, fabric, and accents. Filters can help you sort through online stores and simplify shopping. Shopping in person can take more time and energy, and if you’re not clear on what you’re looking for, it can be easy to blow your budget on something you didn’t really need or that may not even match anything in your closet. Shopping in person allows you to try things on. If you’re on a budget, you won’t have to spend a fortune on many things and return the ones that don’t work for you. If you’re shopping local, you are supporting a small business in your community. In this program, I’ll share tips to help you know when it’s best to shop in-person vs. online shopping.

Will you shop for me?
I’m a coach and consultant, but not a personal shopper. I will, however recommend brands that I think will help you achieve your style goals, fit your body, and your budget, and I’ll teach you how to use filters and your Style Strategy to shop with ease.
Is there anything I have to do before our VIP Day?

Yes! I’ve created my own signature questionnaire’s to to learn more about you and to help us create your goals for the day. Since I’m a coach and EASE is one of my top core values, I’ve made the process as easy as possible for you. I’ve created a simple, prework mini-course with video instructions to guide you through the process. There are four lessons and the work can be submitted right in the portal. No endless google docs or tech nightmares here!

Alexis is wearing a jumper with a bold leaf print, standing outside in a back yard, smiling and looking behind her at the camera.
Alexis Buhrman smiling and waving hello at the camera

My closet reflects my personal style, but it wasn’t always this way.

As a person who’s fluctuated up and down many sizes, I’ve had a love/hate relationship with style. I’ve experienced the privilege of being in a smaller body and being able to buy clothes right off the rack. I’ve also experienced what it feels like to be in a much bigger body where nothing in the store fits, and when it does, it’s expensive. If you’ve ever shopped for a wedding dress/suit and not been able to try any on because the store doesn’t carry your size, had a “mean girl” sales associate experience, or otherwise felt completely unwelcome and unrepresented by the fashion/style world, I see you. You are welcome here.

When my size changed, I punished myself by refusing to buy bigger clothes. I know what it’s like to start the day, every day, feeling rushed, stressed, disappointed, and sad because nothing fits. To avoiding cleaning out the closet to avoid feeling shame about the weight. But friend, I stopped waiting on the weight to wear what I want to wear. I stopped making it mean something and just bought some new clothes.

Changing my relationship with my style and healing my fashion wound has allowed me to fall in love with my clothes and use them to express myself through my own style story. As a coach who believes in infusing joy and pleasure into everyday, main character moments, getting dressed has become one of the many ways I tap into those positive feelings every single day.

I would be honored to help you find and transform your relationship with your personal style so you can show up in life with the confidence of the main character!

Because style is for every budget and every body!

– Alexis

Ready to chat?

Fill out a quick questionnaire to see if we’re a good fit!

Take me to the questionnaire!

Still have questions?

Email hello@alexisbuhrman.comContact me here,
and I’ll be happy to answer them!

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What’s your pain threshold on a scale of 1-10?

When I was home last month, I saw many of my oldest friends.
 
We talked about real-life stuff. Stuff we've struggled with, or are currently working through.
 
From alcoholism to smoking, stress eating to relationship struggles, everything was on the table.
 
What we all have in common is that we all have our own sabotages and ways of coping with life.
 
What we don't have in common is the exact timeline for when we are willing and/or able to change them.
 
People have different pain thresholds.
 
Some people can tolerate lots of pain. They can suffer in unhappiness for years. Think of people you know who've been in miserable marriages for decades.
 
Some people, like myself, tolerate little. My threshold is low. Not because I can't handle pain, but because I want to address issues before they become a big deal and I revert back to old Alexis and deal with my shit with a pack of Virginia Slim Light 120s and a bottle of Hendricks...
 
If you are tolerating things in your life that you want to change, here are some questions you can ask yourself:
 
1. Where do you rate your pain threshold on a 1-10, 1 being low tolerance and ten being highest?
 
2. Would that rating be the same if you were in the same place a year from now?
 
3. For how long, or under what circumstances are you willing to tolerate this issue?
 
4. What do you gain out of staying in the current situation?
 
5. And lastly, what number do you think you'd need to be at to finally be driven to make a change?
 
For me, it's a 2-3, max. It depends on the situation and its pros and cons.

For example, I'm tolerating that I can't have any damn plants in my house because I have cats that are complete assholes. But, I love these assholes, so a plantless life is something I am willing to tolerate...begrudgingly...
 
You may be tolerating something, but there are some reasons that make it work for you, too. Until you decide it doesn't anymore.
 
If you're below a five on the threshold scale and want to talk about what a change might look like and how I could help you, let’s talk.
 
Whatever your thoughts or fears, change is possible, and I am here for you.
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What’s your pain threshold on a scale of 1-10? When I was home last month, I saw many of my oldest friends. We talked about real-life stuff. Stuff we've struggled with, or are currently working through. From alcoholism to smoking, stress eating to relationship struggles, everything was on the table. What we all have in common is that we all have our own sabotages and ways of coping with life. What we don't have in common is the exact timeline for when we are willing and/or able to change them. People have different pain thresholds. Some people can tolerate lots of pain. They can suffer in unhappiness for years. Think of people you know who've been in miserable marriages for decades. Some people, like myself, tolerate little. My threshold is low. Not because I can't handle pain, but because I want to address issues before they become a big deal and I revert back to old Alexis and deal with my shit with a pack of Virginia Slim Light 120s and a bottle of Hendricks... If you are tolerating things in your life that you want to change, here are some questions you can ask yourself: 1. Where do you rate your pain threshold on a 1-10, 1 being low tolerance and ten being highest? 2. Would that rating be the same if you were in the same place a year from now? 3. For how long, or under what circumstances are you willing to tolerate this issue? 4. What do you gain out of staying in the current situation? 5. And lastly, what number do you think you'd need to be at to finally be driven to make a change? For me, it's a 2-3, max. It depends on the situation and its pros and cons. For example, I'm tolerating that I can't have any damn plants in my house because I have cats that are complete assholes. But, I love these assholes, so a plantless life is something I am willing to tolerate...begrudgingly... You may be tolerating something, but there are some reasons that make it work for you, too. Until you decide it doesn't anymore. If you're below a five on the threshold scale and want to talk about what a change might look like and how I could help you, let’s talk. Whatever your thoughts or fears, change is possible, and I am here for you.
9 months ago
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The first six months of the year are officially over. WHAT?! WHERE?! HOW?! 🤣

Maybe you started 2022 with goals for the year and you're making progress. Awesome! Maybe you're feeling behind.

Maybe you didn’t give a damn about goals because, you know, America is basically on fire…

You know me. I'm all about evaluating things in a non-judgmental, curious way: what's working, what isn't, and what am I going to do about it.

If you feel like evaluating where you're at today, now could be a great time to get started.

If you haven't made the progress you hoped for at the start of the year, this could be a great opportunity to get curious about why, so you can start making shifts and changes.

If 2022 hasn't been what you hoped, that's okay. Let's focus on today and what is possible moving forward.

Where would you like to be on New Year's Eve six months from now?

Who do you hope to be?

How do you want to feel?

What do you hope would be different between then and now?

If you are ready to take action and need support, I would love to work with you.

In April, I launched a beta run for my new program. Participants spent two days with me in a virtual retreat, getting crystal clear on the life they wanted to create and their goals, LIVE in my online course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™.

I took feedback, refined the process, and expanded the program to provide more support, and now I'm relaunching it – my beta 2.0.

❌  If you feel stuck and you're not getting the outcomes you want, this program may be right for you.

❌  If you missed the last round and don't want to miss out this time, this program may be right for you.

❌  If you have been trying to make changes, but they're not working, and you need to shake things up and try something different, this program may be right for you.

Enrollment and space are limited because of the intimacy and personalization of the program. I have spots open now through September.

Interested in learning more? DM me or Comment “BETA” and I’ll send you an outline of what you get, and if you’re still interested, a link to book a no-pressure discovery call.

I would be honored to work with you through the rest of this year!
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The first six months of the year are officially over. WHAT?! WHERE?! HOW?! 🤣 Maybe you started 2022 with goals for the year and you're making progress. Awesome! Maybe you're feeling behind. Maybe you didn’t give a damn about goals because, you know, America is basically on fire… You know me. I'm all about evaluating things in a non-judgmental, curious way: what's working, what isn't, and what am I going to do about it. If you feel like evaluating where you're at today, now could be a great time to get started. If you haven't made the progress you hoped for at the start of the year, this could be a great opportunity to get curious about why, so you can start making shifts and changes. If 2022 hasn't been what you hoped, that's okay. Let's focus on today and what is possible moving forward. Where would you like to be on New Year's Eve six months from now? Who do you hope to be? How do you want to feel? What do you hope would be different between then and now? If you are ready to take action and need support, I would love to work with you. In April, I launched a beta run for my new program. Participants spent two days with me in a virtual retreat, getting crystal clear on the life they wanted to create and their goals, LIVE in my online course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™. I took feedback, refined the process, and expanded the program to provide more support, and now I'm relaunching it – my beta 2.0. ❌ If you feel stuck and you're not getting the outcomes you want, this program may be right for you. ❌ If you missed the last round and don't want to miss out this time, this program may be right for you. ❌ If you have been trying to make changes, but they're not working, and you need to shake things up and try something different, this program may be right for you. Enrollment and space are limited because of the intimacy and personalization of the program. I have spots open now through September. Interested in learning more? DM me or Comment “BETA” and I’ll send you an outline of what you get, and if you’re still interested, a link to book a no-pressure discovery call. I would be honored to work with you through the rest of this year!
9 months ago
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Jim Hopper is my boyfriend. 😘⁠
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I love Stranger Things. I counted down the days to the season 4 drop, and it did not disappoint. The soundtrack was fantastic. The acting and writing were stellar.⁠
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And then there was Jim Hopper.⁠
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Friend, I have a mad crush on David Harbour. If Alexis has a "type," it's his role as Jim Hopper.⁠
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✅ Amazing dance moves⁠
✅ 6’3” with a haaaaawwwwwtttt dad bod + cop uniform⁠
✅ Looking like a SNACK⁠
✅ Saves the damn day⁠
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Hopper is the stuff my fantasies are made of. 🤣⁠
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Without giving away spoilers, Hopper goes through several transformations/evolutions throughout the show.⁠
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We see his backstory and how he copes with life.⁠
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My therapist calls coping mechanisms "pressure valves," and I think it's a great way to describe how people cope with stress - with understanding and without judgment.⁠
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Had a hard day? Pull on your personal brand of pressure valve = release pressure.⁠
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For some, that's alcohol. For others, it’s online shopping, porn, gambling, or numbing out.⁠
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For me, it used to be smoking.⁠
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It's how I dealt with stress and trauma before I had other resources. Even as an adult, it was my go-to pressure valve.⁠
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I'm talking to people right now about how they are dealing with the layers of compounding trauma from the last few years. If you’re in the U.S., it feels like there is a crisis almost daily these days.⁠
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We aren't meant to deal with chronic stress, so we look for ways to cope and release the pressure of life.⁠
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Everyone has a different pressure valve.⁠
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Like my boyfriend, Jim Hopper, we can get through hard times.⁠
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We can find ways to release the pressures that are helpful, not harmful.⁠
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Wherever you are right now, and however you're coping with life, I see you.⁠
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If you're over-drinking, hiding boxes of online orders from your spouse, or numbing out on social media, I accept you without judgment.⁠
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And, as always, I'm here for you.⁠
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Sending you high-fives and 80s vibes, ⁠
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Alexis
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Jim Hopper is my boyfriend. 😘⁠ ⁠ I love Stranger Things. I counted down the days to the season 4 drop, and it did not disappoint. The soundtrack was fantastic. The acting and writing were stellar.⁠ ⁠ And then there was Jim Hopper.⁠ ⁠ Friend, I have a mad crush on David Harbour. If Alexis has a "type," it's his role as Jim Hopper.⁠ ⁠ ✅ Amazing dance moves⁠ ✅ 6’3” with a haaaaawwwwwtttt dad bod + cop uniform⁠ ✅ Looking like a SNACK⁠ ✅ Saves the damn day⁠ ⁠ Hopper is the stuff my fantasies are made of. 🤣⁠ ⁠ Without giving away spoilers, Hopper goes through several transformations/evolutions throughout the show.⁠ ⁠ We see his backstory and how he copes with life.⁠ ⁠ My therapist calls coping mechanisms "pressure valves," and I think it's a great way to describe how people cope with stress - with understanding and without judgment.⁠ ⁠ Had a hard day? Pull on your personal brand of pressure valve = release pressure.⁠ ⁠ For some, that's alcohol. For others, it’s online shopping, porn, gambling, or numbing out.⁠ ⁠ For me, it used to be smoking.⁠ ⁠ It's how I dealt with stress and trauma before I had other resources. Even as an adult, it was my go-to pressure valve.⁠ ⁠ I'm talking to people right now about how they are dealing with the layers of compounding trauma from the last few years. If you’re in the U.S., it feels like there is a crisis almost daily these days.⁠ ⁠ We aren't meant to deal with chronic stress, so we look for ways to cope and release the pressure of life.⁠ ⁠ Everyone has a different pressure valve.⁠ ⁠ Like my boyfriend, Jim Hopper, we can get through hard times.⁠ ⁠ We can find ways to release the pressures that are helpful, not harmful.⁠ ⁠ Wherever you are right now, and however you're coping with life, I see you.⁠ ⁠ If you're over-drinking, hiding boxes of online orders from your spouse, or numbing out on social media, I accept you without judgment.⁠ ⁠ And, as always, I'm here for you.⁠ ⁠ Sending you high-fives and 80s vibes, ⁠ ⁠ Alexis
9 months ago
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If you don't want to read about "lady business" and cat buttholes, keep scrolling. 🤣⁠
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I have THE WORST cramps. I always have. For two days, I'm destroyed.⁠
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Eric knows the drill...that THIS IS NOT A DRILL!⁠
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☑️ All cats on deck!⁠
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☑️ Electric hot pad at all times!⁠
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☑️ Blankets!⁠
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☑️ Totino's pizza!⁠
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☑️ Box of tissue because I will cry for two days at literally anything. If a squirrel is playing in the front yard or we're out of Totino's pizza. TEARS! ⁠
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When I worked in advertising, it was rough. It's hard to find a gap to take 2-3 days off for vacation. Certainly not every month.⁠
⁠
While I love that more and more amazing companies are providing unlimited menstrual leave, it's not a standard. But that's a rant for another day… ⁠
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Taking off these couple of days every month is one of the most significant benefits of starting my own business.⁠
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Other unexpected benefits are having time to see family and friends more than 1-2x a year and sleeping as long as I need.⁠
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I don't have to commute. I set my schedule to start later in the morning. If I need to, I can sleep a little later.⁠
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I know this is a privilege since I don't have kids. Still, it was a benefit I purposefully identified as something I wanted when I left advertising, after more than a decade of terrible insomnia. ⁠
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These benefits might not be what comes to mind when you imagine what "living your best life" looks like. They don't make for insta-worthy photos!⁠
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But I think these little benefits make my life richer and give me more energy for those insta-worthy goals.⁠
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Traveling is great, but IDK…sleeping in with Eric and morning snuggles are pretty great, too. (And then, of course, the cats because the SECOND I wake up, their radars go off, and there they are, on the bed, butts up in my face.)⁠
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Literally over here, just waking up to three cat buttholes, living my best damn life!⁠
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Buttholes aside, what are some simple benefits you could enjoy in your life if you said yes to something you want?⁠
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If you feel like sharing, let me know in the comments. 👇🏻⁠
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Sending you high-fives, snuggle vibes, and thanks if you stayed for all the lady business and cat butthole content!
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If you don't want to read about "lady business" and cat buttholes, keep scrolling. 🤣⁠ ⁠ I have THE WORST cramps. I always have. For two days, I'm destroyed.⁠ ⁠ Eric knows the drill...that THIS IS NOT A DRILL!⁠ ⁠ ☑️ All cats on deck!⁠ ⁠ ☑️ Electric hot pad at all times!⁠ ⁠ ☑️ Blankets!⁠ ⁠ ☑️ Totino's pizza!⁠ ⁠ ☑️ Box of tissue because I will cry for two days at literally anything. If a squirrel is playing in the front yard or we're out of Totino's pizza. TEARS! ⁠ ⁠ When I worked in advertising, it was rough. It's hard to find a gap to take 2-3 days off for vacation. Certainly not every month.⁠ ⁠ While I love that more and more amazing companies are providing unlimited menstrual leave, it's not a standard. But that's a rant for another day… ⁠ ⁠ Taking off these couple of days every month is one of the most significant benefits of starting my own business.⁠ ⁠ Other unexpected benefits are having time to see family and friends more than 1-2x a year and sleeping as long as I need.⁠ ⁠ I don't have to commute. I set my schedule to start later in the morning. If I need to, I can sleep a little later.⁠ ⁠ I know this is a privilege since I don't have kids. Still, it was a benefit I purposefully identified as something I wanted when I left advertising, after more than a decade of terrible insomnia. ⁠ ⁠ These benefits might not be what comes to mind when you imagine what "living your best life" looks like. They don't make for insta-worthy photos!⁠ ⁠ But I think these little benefits make my life richer and give me more energy for those insta-worthy goals.⁠ ⁠ Traveling is great, but IDK…sleeping in with Eric and morning snuggles are pretty great, too. (And then, of course, the cats because the SECOND I wake up, their radars go off, and there they are, on the bed, butts up in my face.)⁠ ⁠ Literally over here, just waking up to three cat buttholes, living my best damn life!⁠ ⁠ Buttholes aside, what are some simple benefits you could enjoy in your life if you said yes to something you want?⁠ ⁠ If you feel like sharing, let me know in the comments. 👇🏻⁠ ⁠ Sending you high-fives, snuggle vibes, and thanks if you stayed for all the lady business and cat butthole content!
10 months ago
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When I read this quote from Brianna Wiest’s The Mountain Is You, it immediately got my attention.⁠
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If you want a different life, it’s going to cost you your old one. While that may sound simple, it’s complex.⁠
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Often we don’t love how our lives look, but we’re comfortable in them.⁠
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Some of us stay in an unhappy marriage because ignoring our problems is easier (and less painful) than having tough conversations, seeing a marriage counselor, or leaving.⁠
⁠
Some of us stay in a job that doesn’t let us use our strengths because it’s safer than going for the job that comes with more responsibility.⁠
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And some of us have dreams that get put on the “someday” list, even though for most, “someday” usually turns into “never.”⁠
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We don’t read the books we shoved in the back of the bookshelf, right? They collect dust, forgotten about.⁠
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The change puts us out of our comfort zone.⁠
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The comfort zone is safer to stay in, it’s true.⁠
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It’s a place to settle, not to thrive.⁠
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When we settle, we forget how to be hungry for things we want. Better relationships. More purpose in our work. More joy and pleasure in our lives.⁠
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When we forget how it FEELS to be hungry, we settle for whatever is on the table.⁠
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I want you to get hungry because I promise you, if you’re settling, your new life is worth the cost of the old one.⁠
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Once you take a bite into your new life, you will realize the cost is worth paying.⁠
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What are you hungry for, friend?⁠
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If this post hits a nerve and you’re interested in chatting about how I can support you in coaching - taking those “someday” goals off the dusty-ass shelf and start working toward them today, DM me or write “coaching” in the comments. I’ll send you a link to book a discovery chat.⁠
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Sending you support, hugs, and a nudge - might now be a great time to spring clean your life?⁠

Alexis
When I read this quote from Brianna Wiest’s The Mountain Is You, it immediately got my attention.⁠
 ⁠
If you want a different life, it’s going to cost you your old one. While that may sound simple, it’s complex.⁠
⁠
Often we don’t love how our lives look, but we’re comfortable in them.⁠
⁠
Some of us stay in an unhappy marriage because ignoring our problems is easier (and less painful) than having tough conversations, seeing a marriage counselor, or leaving.⁠
⁠
Some of us stay in a job that doesn’t let us use our strengths because it’s safer than going for the job that comes with more responsibility.⁠
⁠
And some of us have dreams that get put on the “someday” list, even though for most, “someday” usually turns into “never.”⁠
⁠
We don’t read the books we shoved in the back of the bookshelf, right? They collect dust, forgotten about.⁠
⁠
The change puts us out of our comfort zone.⁠
⁠
The comfort zone is safer to stay in, it’s true.⁠
⁠
It’s a place to settle, not to thrive.⁠
⁠
When we settle, we forget how to be hungry for things we want. Better relationships. More purpose in our work. More joy and pleasure in our lives.⁠
⁠
When we forget how it FEELS to be hungry, we settle for whatever is on the table.⁠
 ⁠
I want you to get hungry because I promise you, if you’re settling, your new life is worth the cost of the old one.⁠
⁠
Once you take a bite into your new life, you will realize the cost is worth paying.⁠
⁠
What are you hungry for, friend?⁠
⁠
If this post hits a nerve and you’re interested in chatting about how I can support you in coaching - taking those “someday” goals off the dusty-ass shelf and start working toward them today, DM me or write “coaching” in the comments. I’ll send you a link to book a discovery chat.⁠
⁠
Sending you support, hugs, and a nudge - might now be a great time to spring clean your life?⁠

Alexis
When I read this quote from Brianna Wiest’s The Mountain Is You, it immediately got my attention.⁠
 ⁠
If you want a different life, it’s going to cost you your old one. While that may sound simple, it’s complex.⁠
⁠
Often we don’t love how our lives look, but we’re comfortable in them.⁠
⁠
Some of us stay in an unhappy marriage because ignoring our problems is easier (and less painful) than having tough conversations, seeing a marriage counselor, or leaving.⁠
⁠
Some of us stay in a job that doesn’t let us use our strengths because it’s safer than going for the job that comes with more responsibility.⁠
⁠
And some of us have dreams that get put on the “someday” list, even though for most, “someday” usually turns into “never.”⁠
⁠
We don’t read the books we shoved in the back of the bookshelf, right? They collect dust, forgotten about.⁠
⁠
The change puts us out of our comfort zone.⁠
⁠
The comfort zone is safer to stay in, it’s true.⁠
⁠
It’s a place to settle, not to thrive.⁠
⁠
When we settle, we forget how to be hungry for things we want. Better relationships. More purpose in our work. More joy and pleasure in our lives.⁠
⁠
When we forget how it FEELS to be hungry, we settle for whatever is on the table.⁠
 ⁠
I want you to get hungry because I promise you, if you’re settling, your new life is worth the cost of the old one.⁠
⁠
Once you take a bite into your new life, you will realize the cost is worth paying.⁠
⁠
What are you hungry for, friend?⁠
⁠
If this post hits a nerve and you’re interested in chatting about how I can support you in coaching - taking those “someday” goals off the dusty-ass shelf and start working toward them today, DM me or write “coaching” in the comments. I’ll send you a link to book a discovery chat.⁠
⁠
Sending you support, hugs, and a nudge - might now be a great time to spring clean your life?⁠

Alexis
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When I read this quote from Brianna Wiest’s The Mountain Is You, it immediately got my attention.⁠ ⁠ If you want a different life, it’s going to cost you your old one. While that may sound simple, it’s complex.⁠ ⁠ Often we don’t love how our lives look, but we’re comfortable in them.⁠ ⁠ Some of us stay in an unhappy marriage because ignoring our problems is easier (and less painful) than having tough conversations, seeing a marriage counselor, or leaving.⁠ ⁠ Some of us stay in a job that doesn’t let us use our strengths because it’s safer than going for the job that comes with more responsibility.⁠ ⁠ And some of us have dreams that get put on the “someday” list, even though for most, “someday” usually turns into “never.”⁠ ⁠ We don’t read the books we shoved in the back of the bookshelf, right? They collect dust, forgotten about.⁠ ⁠ The change puts us out of our comfort zone.⁠ ⁠ The comfort zone is safer to stay in, it’s true.⁠ ⁠ It’s a place to settle, not to thrive.⁠ ⁠ When we settle, we forget how to be hungry for things we want. Better relationships. More purpose in our work. More joy and pleasure in our lives.⁠ ⁠ When we forget how it FEELS to be hungry, we settle for whatever is on the table.⁠ ⁠ I want you to get hungry because I promise you, if you’re settling, your new life is worth the cost of the old one.⁠ ⁠ Once you take a bite into your new life, you will realize the cost is worth paying.⁠ ⁠ What are you hungry for, friend?⁠ ⁠ If this post hits a nerve and you’re interested in chatting about how I can support you in coaching - taking those “someday” goals off the dusty-ass shelf and start working toward them today, DM me or write “coaching” in the comments. I’ll send you a link to book a discovery chat.⁠ ⁠ Sending you support, hugs, and a nudge - might now be a great time to spring clean your life?⁠ Alexis
1 year ago
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Are you the star of your own show or playing a supporting role?

The first time I heard of this concept, it turned me off. Right away, I thought of Mean Girls, with the star being a selfish bitch and the supporting role being the person we should aim to be. 🤣

The second time I heard it, though, it made more sense.

Being the star of the show isn’t about being the center of attention at the expense of others, but being the center of your own attention and care so you can live to your full potential.

Main characters take fantastic care of themselves and, as a result, are fantastic to be around. They encourage others to take care of themselves and lead any example.

Main characters go after what they want. That lets others see that it's possible (and the world isn’t going to fall apart) if they go after what they want, too.

Main characters don’t deny themselves joy or feel guilty for feeling it.

I know I’ve played a supporting role in my life before. If you know my loud, leopard-print-wearing ass personally, you might disagree, haha, but I wasn’t always bringing the main character energy to life.

The good lotion and fancy candles were only for special occasions. I didn’t wear things I loved because I didn’t feel thin enough to be “allowed” to wear them. 

But last night I went on a hot date with my man and wore a dress I love that fits my current body. I ate what I wanted and didn’t feel bad about it. I had fun, laughed, and flirted with Eric and it was a perfect night. I was full-on leading lady.

I wish main character me could go back and tell the past, supporting role me she is allowed to enjoy her life fully and go after what she wants.

Not when she’s earned it. Not when she’s good enough. Not when she’s smart enough.

Because she deserves it.

We all do.

It’s never too late to be the main character, friend.

What’s one area of your life you’re feeling like you’re showing up in the supporting role?

What would happen if you just showed up as the main character? What could be possible for you?

Sending you hugs, standing ovations, and permission to wear the expensive perfume you’ve been saving for a special occasion…(today is a special occasion)

Alexis
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Are you the star of your own show or playing a supporting role? The first time I heard of this concept, it turned me off. Right away, I thought of Mean Girls, with the star being a selfish bitch and the supporting role being the person we should aim to be. 🤣 The second time I heard it, though, it made more sense. Being the star of the show isn’t about being the center of attention at the expense of others, but being the center of your own attention and care so you can live to your full potential. Main characters take fantastic care of themselves and, as a result, are fantastic to be around. They encourage others to take care of themselves and lead any example. Main characters go after what they want. That lets others see that it's possible (and the world isn’t going to fall apart) if they go after what they want, too. Main characters don’t deny themselves joy or feel guilty for feeling it. I know I’ve played a supporting role in my life before. If you know my loud, leopard-print-wearing ass personally, you might disagree, haha, but I wasn’t always bringing the main character energy to life. The good lotion and fancy candles were only for special occasions. I didn’t wear things I loved because I didn’t feel thin enough to be “allowed” to wear them. But last night I went on a hot date with my man and wore a dress I love that fits my current body. I ate what I wanted and didn’t feel bad about it. I had fun, laughed, and flirted with Eric and it was a perfect night. I was full-on leading lady. I wish main character me could go back and tell the past, supporting role me she is allowed to enjoy her life fully and go after what she wants. Not when she’s earned it. Not when she’s good enough. Not when she’s smart enough. Because she deserves it. We all do. It’s never too late to be the main character, friend. What’s one area of your life you’re feeling like you’re showing up in the supporting role? What would happen if you just showed up as the main character? What could be possible for you? Sending you hugs, standing ovations, and permission to wear the expensive perfume you’ve been saving for a special occasion…(today is a special occasion) Alexis
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