Love it or hate it, it’s that time of year: New Year’s Resolutions time. Before you even think about your goals, let’s end this painful New Year’s Resolution cycle and toxic trait that so many people fall into each year.
I want to share an important story.
I had a coaching client who loved to plan and set goals, but when it came to the work, she never actually did the thing. I’m not judging – just sharing a story many of us can relate to.
She was busy, and on paper, it looked like she was making progress, but when it came to doing the work…she never did it.
She’d “goal hop.”
Goal hopping is sneaky busy work. It’s having a lot of goals and switching from one goal to another when the work for one gets tough. It’s being busy but never making progress or achieving anything because you’re not really committed.
Please stick with me because here is why this is important.
Goal hopping isn’t uncommon, especially when things feel scary and out of reach, but it’s more serious than you might think.
Goal hopping never leads to success, and that feels like shit.
It’s a cycle – a cycle of letting yourself down and beating yourself up.
When you do this repeatedly, you stop believing your word to yourself.
I want you to break the cycle this year.
If you can’t commit to a goal, what if you let it be okay to be honest and not work toward that goal?
What would it look like if, instead of forcing the thing, you admitted to yourself that even though you want the results, you don’t want them bad enough? And that’s okay?
Being honest with yourself is powerful because you’re building trust with yourself.
It’s OKAY to admit you want something, but not bad enough to commit to it.
I want to learn Italian and have more strength, but I didn’t want it enough this year to commit to either. And I knew it.
I don’t know Italian, and I don’t have upper arm strength…and it’s fine. It’s fine because I let it be fine. I didn’t lie to myself, half-ass commit, and then make myself feel bad.
I just took those goals off the list.
In my course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, we start with a deep dive into our vision for the life we want and choose all the many goals that can create it. All the paths that could get you there. That’s day one. On day two, we’ve run those goals through some exercises to weed out the ones that aren’t a true priority, and we’re just laser-focusing on 1-2.
This is intentional because I want my students and clients to experience wins for themselves.
Wins build confidence and trust in oneself. You have a stronger foundation from this place to make more significant moves. It’s making incremental upgrades to your life in a safe and feel-good way for you.
My course is open for enrollment, and I believe it can genuinely support you in the new year.
But whether or not you enroll, I wanted to leave you with this powerful message.
It’s okay to admit you want something, but the cost is too high, or it feels too hard right now. You don’t need a reason to beat yourself up. Life is hard enough.
I mean, how f*cking GOOD does that feel? To be honest with yourself and let that weight and guilt go?
How good would it feel to put your time and energy into things you DO feel confident you can create? Something you actually want to achieve?
You will feel so much better about yourself, and I want that for you.
I’d love to support you on this journey.
I am sending you high-fives, new year’s vibes, and all my support in 2023 and beyond.
P.S. What’s one goal you’re ready to put on hold for now? Or forever? How good does it feel to give yourself this permission? I’d love to hear from you – reply in the comments and let me know.