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December 15, 2021

4 Reasons to Know Your Why Before You Pick New Year’s Resolutions

Why should you know your WHY before you pick New Year’s Resolutions? Did you know that 80% of people who commit to resolutions and goals have given up by the middle of February? That’s a huge number! Who would bet on those odds?

Yet year after year, Americans spend a small fortune in the hopes that THIS year will be different. This year those goals will finally be realized.

That tells me two things:

  1. A lot of people truly care about changing their lives for the better.
  2. With such a high failure rate, WE can’t be doing it wrong. The WAY we’re doing it is must be flawed.

When January rolls around each year, we’re told to focus on our resolutions. We pick them because we believe that if we achieve our goals, we’ll feel differently than we do now. We’ll be happier.

But let me ask you a question.

Is everyone who achieves their goals happy?

No! Of course not.

I think the problem is that we don’t always know how to choose the right goals.

When it comes to New Year’s Resolutions, we start with a GOAL in mind.

We should be starting with the vision for the life we want to create, and WHY we want to create it before we ever even think about our goals.

White woman smiles, sitting on the couch with a cup of tea reading her Why in her journal

Our WHY is the reason behind our actions. Without getting clear on our WHY on a deep level, there’s no motivation behind the work it takes to achieve our goals.

Without a WHY, Netflix and the couch look SO much better than staying up late to finish the class, eating more vegetables or getting a good night’s rest.

Here are 4 reasons to know your WHY before you pick your new year’s resolutions:

1. You’ll choose better goals.

Let’s look at weight loss as an example because it’s one of the top goals on most people’s New Year’s Resolutions lists.

Gyms and personal trainers see sales skyrocket in January because people want to lose weight.

Most people aim to lose a lot of weight in a short period of time with extreme diet plans and exercise.

I’ve watched friends put everything in life on hold to focus exclusively on losing weight, only to hit their goal then gain it all back and go through a rollercoaster of emotions along the way.

Why would we choose this goal?

It might be to “look better” because our culture idolizes and rewards thinness, right?

It’s more likely because we feel that once we achieve it, we’ll feel differently than we do now.

But if you want to FEEL a certain way, will this goal get you there?

Will the rollercoaster of deprivation, stress, success, then failure make a person feel better?

I don’t think so.

What if, instead of choosing a goal, we focused on our WHY first?

What if, on a deeper level, the WHY wasn’t about losing weight, but improving health to be around for our kids as long as we can?

Or to have enough physical energy to travel with our spouse or our friends?

Or because we feel sore when we wake up and we want to feel better in our bodies?

When we lead with our WHY, we tend to pick better goals. The kind of goals we can, and actually WANT, to stick to.

With a WHY of health, energy and vitality, wouldn’t we ditch the extreme diets and focus on long-term changes that would improve our health. And know it’s working when we feel the way we want to feel?

Not a number on a scale. A FEELING.

When you know your WHY, you pick better goals.

2. You’ll make decisions with intention.

How many times have you found yourself struggling to make a decision?

Go for the promotion or stay in the current role? Keep the job or start the business? Go back to school or put it off for “someday?” Stay or leave the relationship?

When you know your WHY, you know the reason behind your decisions.

When you find yourself at a crossroads and aren’t sure what decision to make, your WHY will help you find the answer. It’s no longer a matter of this vs. that or making the wrong choice, but asking yourself “Does this decision align with my WHY?”

If it doesn’t? Your WHY just made the decision for you.

3. You’ll have a reason to stay motivated.

Why do we lose motivation? Lots of reasons. We pick a resolution and hit the ground running with the best of intentions. Then the kids get sick. We have a special project at work. We get busy and we get tired and let’s be real, the couch and a glass of wine start to look very damn good.

When we know our WHY and have a deep emotional connection to it, it’s easier to get up early to work on our business before our family is up, rather than sleeping in. Our goals feel like a gift rather than a chore because we’ve chosen them for a reason.

Your WHY will help you stay motivated.

4. You’ll know what to prioritize.

If you know your WHY before you pick New Year’s Resolutions, you’ll be able to prioritize your time when life gets busy.

When we focus on too many goals or resolutions at once – like eating healthy, going back to school, dating, and starting a side business, we decrease our chance of success because we’re not laser focused on finishing one thing. We’re all over the place.

Some goals are the right goals, but not the “right now” goals.

Your WHY will help you choose what to work toward first, and when you’ve achieved that milestone, you can work toward something else.

When you know your WHY before you pick your New Year’s Resolutions, you’re setting yourself up for success.

Those were the 4 Reasons to Know Your WHY Before You Pick Your New Year’s Resolutions. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

Ready to approach your resolutions and goals in a new, feel-good way? I can help with that! Check out my uh-mazing, affordable, online vision and goal-setting course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™.

Check out these other New Year’s Resolution posts:

Too Pandemic Fried for New Year’s Resolutions?

3 Reasons New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

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Alexis Buhrman

I help professional women bring more purpose, peace and pleasure into their lives, without sacrificing one for the other, to create a main character life. I teach my clients a strategy to work toward their business, professional, and personal goals in a sustainable, feel-good way, with more confidence, ease, joy, fun, and pleasure.

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I have a personal style program, but since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ (my vision and goal-setting course), has been my signature program.⁠ It was my first program, before I started expanding my brand to help women live their lives like the main damn character.⁠
⁠
Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend.⁠
⁠
I'm proud of this program, and now I'm retiring the course. 😮⁠
⁠
I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™, as part of my larger "main character" umbrella brand.⁠
⁠
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.⁠
⁠
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:⁠
⁠
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)⁠
⁠
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)⁠
⁠
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.⁠
⁠
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen.⁠
⁠
The course is designed to be fun, inspirational and intentional. You can do it over a weekend from your couch, an airbnb or a cabin in the woods.⁠
⁠
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Grab your partner, spouse or bestie, set your intentions, design your vision and craft a plan for a beautiful 2024.⁠
⁠
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout.⁠
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I have a personal style program, but since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ (my vision and goal-setting course), has been my signature program.⁠ It was my first program, before I started expanding my brand to help women live their lives like the main damn character.⁠ ⁠ Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend.⁠ ⁠ I'm proud of this program, and now I'm retiring the course. 😮⁠ ⁠ I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™, as part of my larger "main character" umbrella brand.⁠ ⁠ I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.⁠ ⁠ I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:⁠ ⁠ ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)⁠ ⁠ ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)⁠ ⁠ And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.⁠ ⁠ What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen.⁠ ⁠ The course is designed to be fun, inspirational and intentional. You can do it over a weekend from your couch, an airbnb or a cabin in the woods.⁠ ⁠ If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Grab your partner, spouse or bestie, set your intentions, design your vision and craft a plan for a beautiful 2024.⁠ ⁠ Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout.⁠
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Does planning for your goals feel hopeless or hopeful?

I used to take courses and workshops to help me plan for big goals. I hoped I’d walk away inspired, but that wasn’t always the case.

Many times, I left feeling more hopeless than hopeful because I believed my “mindset” was the problem. That’s what I was being told.

I value mindset work, but sometimes the problem wasn't my mindset. Sometimes it was life.

Sometimes it's not your mindset, friend.

Sometimes it’s having limited resources.

Sometimes it’s health issues.

Sometimes it’s not fear of failing, but fear of the consequences of failing, like losing financial security. I’ve seen this one SO much in the online space - people being pressured to invest a lot of money, quit their jobs and start a businesses, only to end up ruining their credit, filing for bankruptcy or losing their home.

Sometimes it’s not your mindset, it’s real life and you’re in it. The last thing you need to hear is that the problem is you and your thoughts.

If you feel seen right now, good. I SEE YOU and honor your experience. 

When I created my course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, I wanted it to feel inspiring, while also honoring where people are at and the resources they have. 

I wanted clients to explore their goals and what sort of investment they will take, so they understand the consequences of choosing them. We're not glossing over this part.

I wanted the course to feel like a retreat, but one that people could attend affordably from home. They could log on from their couch or a cabin in the woods.

And I wanted it to be flexible. While I designed to be completed in a weekend, there’s no time limit.

Mostly, I wanted people to feel seen and validated for where they are, and celebrated for wanting something more.

If you feel like the year didn’t turn out as you hoped, I’d love to invite you to take a chance and join The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ for the lowest price it’s ever been, $297 ($200 off).

I’m retiring the course to make space for a new one and happy to offer this discount.

You can enroll now, and use code use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout to apply the discount. Link to join in bio.
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Does planning for your goals feel hopeless or hopeful? I used to take courses and workshops to help me plan for big goals. I hoped I’d walk away inspired, but that wasn’t always the case. Many times, I left feeling more hopeless than hopeful because I believed my “mindset” was the problem. That’s what I was being told. I value mindset work, but sometimes the problem wasn't my mindset. Sometimes it was life. Sometimes it's not your mindset, friend. Sometimes it’s having limited resources. Sometimes it’s health issues. Sometimes it’s not fear of failing, but fear of the consequences of failing, like losing financial security. I’ve seen this one SO much in the online space - people being pressured to invest a lot of money, quit their jobs and start a businesses, only to end up ruining their credit, filing for bankruptcy or losing their home. Sometimes it’s not your mindset, it’s real life and you’re in it. The last thing you need to hear is that the problem is you and your thoughts. If you feel seen right now, good. I SEE YOU and honor your experience. When I created my course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, I wanted it to feel inspiring, while also honoring where people are at and the resources they have. I wanted clients to explore their goals and what sort of investment they will take, so they understand the consequences of choosing them. We're not glossing over this part. I wanted the course to feel like a retreat, but one that people could attend affordably from home. They could log on from their couch or a cabin in the woods. And I wanted it to be flexible. While I designed to be completed in a weekend, there’s no time limit. Mostly, I wanted people to feel seen and validated for where they are, and celebrated for wanting something more. If you feel like the year didn’t turn out as you hoped, I’d love to invite you to take a chance and join The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ for the lowest price it’s ever been, $297 ($200 off). I’m retiring the course to make space for a new one and happy to offer this discount. You can enroll now, and use code use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout to apply the discount. Link to join in bio.
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning.
 
For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process.
 
I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella.
 
Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. 
 
I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! 
 
And now I'm retiring the course. 😮

I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™.
 
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.
 
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:
 
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)
 
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)
 
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.
 
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character.
 
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price.
 
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR

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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning. For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process. I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella. Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! And now I'm retiring the course. 😮 I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™. I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course. I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay: ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497) ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797) And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans. What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character. If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR Here's to new beginnings!
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it?

People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts.

Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do.

Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got.

Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?!

Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions:

What impression do you want to make?

How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you?

It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry.

When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should."

Here's what I want you to know:

You can have a great style that feels easy.

You can have a great style that fits your budget.

You can have great style in the body you have right now.

You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to.

You can have great style and be comfortable.

You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should."

Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes.

If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call.

If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it? People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts. Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do. Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got. Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?! Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions: What impression do you want to make? How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you? It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry. When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should." Here's what I want you to know: You can have a great style that feels easy. You can have a great style that fits your budget. You can have great style in the body you have right now. You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to. You can have great style and be comfortable. You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should." Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes. If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call. If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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I have a personal style program, but since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ (my vision and goal-setting course), has been my signature program.⁠ It was my first program, before I started expanding my brand to help women live their lives like the main damn character.⁠
⁠
Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend.⁠
⁠
I'm proud of this program, and now I'm retiring the course. 😮⁠
⁠
I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™, as part of my larger "main character" umbrella brand.⁠
⁠
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.⁠
⁠
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:⁠
⁠
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)⁠
⁠
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)⁠
⁠
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.⁠
⁠
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen.⁠
⁠
The course is designed to be fun, inspirational and intentional. You can do it over a weekend from your couch, an airbnb or a cabin in the woods.⁠
⁠
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Grab your partner, spouse or bestie, set your intentions, design your vision and craft a plan for a beautiful 2024.⁠
⁠
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout.⁠
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I have a personal style program, but since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ (my vision and goal-setting course), has been my signature program.⁠ It was my first program, before I started expanding my brand to help women live their lives like the main damn character.⁠ ⁠ Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend.⁠ ⁠ I'm proud of this program, and now I'm retiring the course. 😮⁠ ⁠ I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™, as part of my larger "main character" umbrella brand.⁠ ⁠ I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.⁠ ⁠ I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:⁠ ⁠ ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)⁠ ⁠ ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)⁠ ⁠ And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.⁠ ⁠ What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen.⁠ ⁠ The course is designed to be fun, inspirational and intentional. You can do it over a weekend from your couch, an airbnb or a cabin in the woods.⁠ ⁠ If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Grab your partner, spouse or bestie, set your intentions, design your vision and craft a plan for a beautiful 2024.⁠ ⁠ Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout.⁠
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Does planning for your goals feel hopeless or hopeful?

I used to take courses and workshops to help me plan for big goals. I hoped I’d walk away inspired, but that wasn’t always the case.

Many times, I left feeling more hopeless than hopeful because I believed my “mindset” was the problem. That’s what I was being told.

I value mindset work, but sometimes the problem wasn't my mindset. Sometimes it was life.

Sometimes it's not your mindset, friend.

Sometimes it’s having limited resources.

Sometimes it’s health issues.

Sometimes it’s not fear of failing, but fear of the consequences of failing, like losing financial security. I’ve seen this one SO much in the online space - people being pressured to invest a lot of money, quit their jobs and start a businesses, only to end up ruining their credit, filing for bankruptcy or losing their home.

Sometimes it’s not your mindset, it’s real life and you’re in it. The last thing you need to hear is that the problem is you and your thoughts.

If you feel seen right now, good. I SEE YOU and honor your experience. 

When I created my course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, I wanted it to feel inspiring, while also honoring where people are at and the resources they have. 

I wanted clients to explore their goals and what sort of investment they will take, so they understand the consequences of choosing them. We're not glossing over this part.

I wanted the course to feel like a retreat, but one that people could attend affordably from home. They could log on from their couch or a cabin in the woods.

And I wanted it to be flexible. While I designed to be completed in a weekend, there’s no time limit.

Mostly, I wanted people to feel seen and validated for where they are, and celebrated for wanting something more.

If you feel like the year didn’t turn out as you hoped, I’d love to invite you to take a chance and join The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ for the lowest price it’s ever been, $297 ($200 off).

I’m retiring the course to make space for a new one and happy to offer this discount.

You can enroll now, and use code use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout to apply the discount. Link to join in bio.
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Does planning for your goals feel hopeless or hopeful? I used to take courses and workshops to help me plan for big goals. I hoped I’d walk away inspired, but that wasn’t always the case. Many times, I left feeling more hopeless than hopeful because I believed my “mindset” was the problem. That’s what I was being told. I value mindset work, but sometimes the problem wasn't my mindset. Sometimes it was life. Sometimes it's not your mindset, friend. Sometimes it’s having limited resources. Sometimes it’s health issues. Sometimes it’s not fear of failing, but fear of the consequences of failing, like losing financial security. I’ve seen this one SO much in the online space - people being pressured to invest a lot of money, quit their jobs and start a businesses, only to end up ruining their credit, filing for bankruptcy or losing their home. Sometimes it’s not your mindset, it’s real life and you’re in it. The last thing you need to hear is that the problem is you and your thoughts. If you feel seen right now, good. I SEE YOU and honor your experience. When I created my course, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, I wanted it to feel inspiring, while also honoring where people are at and the resources they have. I wanted clients to explore their goals and what sort of investment they will take, so they understand the consequences of choosing them. We're not glossing over this part. I wanted the course to feel like a retreat, but one that people could attend affordably from home. They could log on from their couch or a cabin in the woods. And I wanted it to be flexible. While I designed to be completed in a weekend, there’s no time limit. Mostly, I wanted people to feel seen and validated for where they are, and celebrated for wanting something more. If you feel like the year didn’t turn out as you hoped, I’d love to invite you to take a chance and join The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ for the lowest price it’s ever been, $297 ($200 off). I’m retiring the course to make space for a new one and happy to offer this discount. You can enroll now, and use code use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout to apply the discount. Link to join in bio.
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning.
 
For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process.
 
I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella.
 
Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. 
 
I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! 
 
And now I'm retiring the course. 😮

I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™.
 
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.
 
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:
 
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)
 
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)
 
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.
 
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character.
 
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price.
 
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR

Here's to new beginnings!
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning. For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process. I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella. Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! And now I'm retiring the course. 😮 I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™. I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course. I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay: ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497) ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797) And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans. What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character. If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR Here's to new beginnings!
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it?

People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts.

Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do.

Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got.

Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?!

Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions:

What impression do you want to make?

How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you?

It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry.

When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should."

Here's what I want you to know:

You can have a great style that feels easy.

You can have a great style that fits your budget.

You can have great style in the body you have right now.

You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to.

You can have great style and be comfortable.

You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should."

Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes.

If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call.

If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it? People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts. Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do. Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got. Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?! Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions: What impression do you want to make? How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you? It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry. When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should." Here's what I want you to know: You can have a great style that feels easy. You can have a great style that fits your budget. You can have great style in the body you have right now. You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to. You can have great style and be comfortable. You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should." Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes. If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call. If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
3 months ago
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Why are we still doing this?⁠
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I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠
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On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠
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The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠
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Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠
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I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠
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I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠
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I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠
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I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠
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What is my business is how we work together.⁠
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My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠
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And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠
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Thoughts?
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Why are we still doing this?⁠ ⁠ I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠ ⁠ On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠ ⁠ The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠ ⁠ Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠ ⁠ I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠ ⁠ I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠ ⁠ I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠ ⁠ I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠ ⁠ What is my business is how we work together.⁠ ⁠ My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠ ⁠ And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠ ⁠ Thoughts?
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What ERA are you in?

I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives.

I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP.

This looks like asking myself:

Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?!

This week, that looked like asking myself:

Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water?

Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks?

Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep?

I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve.

I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement.

There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt.

A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better.

But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy.

And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP.

If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals.

You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
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What ERA are you in? I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives. I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP. This looks like asking myself: Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?! This week, that looked like asking myself: Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water? Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks? Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep? I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve. I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement. There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt. A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better. But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy. And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP. If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals. You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
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