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February 1, 2022

3 Reasons New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work.

If you’ve failed to achieve your resolutions year after year, you know how frustrating it can feel. Not this year, friend! Here are 3 Reasons New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work and one thing you can focus on instead.

As the end of the year approaches, ’tis the season to start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions. Americans spend a fortune on coaches, exercise equipment, apps, planners and books in the hopes that THIS will be the year they’ll change their lives.

But let me ask you a question.

Does everyone who makes New Year’s Resolutions achieve their goals?

No! Not even close.

80% of people who make resolutions have given up on their goals by Valentine’s Day. That’s a huge number! An 80% failure rate means something is flawed in our approach.

I mean, if I had a 20% chance of winning with my crappy poker hand, I would not go all in – know what I mean?

Almost 100 million American’s make resolutions each year, so it’s clear that we WANT to be successful. We want to achieve our goals.

I help professional women create lives with more purpose, peace and pleasure and here are three reasons that I believe resolutions don’t work – even for the most goal-getting high-achievers.

Reason #1: The goals are too restrictive

I don’t know what the hell it is about January 1st that makes people want to set these extreme goals. The kind of goals that consume your life and don’t leave room for anything else. The goals are too strict, the timelines are unrealistic and they deprive people of peace, pleasure and joy. Why would ANYONE want to stick to that. I wouldn’t.

If you want to achieve your goals, set yourself up to win. Give yourself a realistic, flexible timeline. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Find a way to make your goals work for you so you can make progress AND still enjoy your life at the same time.

That leads me to reason two.

Reason #2: The goals are short-term focused

We underestimate what we can do in a day, but overestimate what we can do in a year. We treat goals like a sprint, but most goals should be treated like a marathon. The problem with focusing on the short-term is that we either rush to reach a goal at all costs – causing us stress, putting strain on our relationships, making us basically miserable, OR we give up because it’s too hard.

What if, instead of focusing on a short-term goals that make us feel like shit, like losing X amount of weight for a wedding, we focused on a long-term goal that would make us FEEL GOOD – like improving your health with small, realistic, achievable actions and habits all year long?

There’s no rule that says you have to achieve your resolutions in three months, right? They’re our resolutions – so we make the rules and set the timeline. How can you let it be easy and set yourself up for success by giving yourself a long-term approach?

woman's hand holding a pen writing new year's resolutions in a journal

The third reason New Year’s resolutions don’t work?

Reason #3: They’re simply the WRONG goals

We are so focused on goals and resolutions because we believe that when we achieve them, we’ll be happy.

But here’s a question for you.

Is everyone that achieves their new year’s resolutions happy? No!

Because our goals don’t guarantee us happiness if they’re missing a key component.

A VISION.

Think of your vision for the life you want to create as a cake. Not just any cake. Not a crappy sheet cake. YOUR specific, gorgeous, fabulous cake.

If you don’t know what type of cake you want to bake, how will you know if the ingredients (your goals) are the right ones to get your desired outcome?

We work toward goals because we think if we achieve them we’ll feel a certain way. Happy. Fulfilled. Peaceful.

But I know a lot of people who got the degree, climbed the ladder, started the business thinking it would make them happy, and they’re actually stressed out, resentful, angry and unhappy.

When we have a vision for the life we want to create FIRST, before we pick our goals – we pick better goals. We consider more options.

We get the right ingredients for the cake we’re baking so it turns out and we don’t have a cake fail.

And when we know our vision, we can take a long-term, less restrictive approach to achieving our goals.

Those were 3 reasons New Year’s resolutions don’t work. I’d love to know which one resonated most with you. Drop the number in the comments and say hello!

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Alexis Buhrman

I help professional women bring more purpose, peace and pleasure into their lives, without sacrificing one for the other, to create a main character life. I teach my clients a strategy to work toward their business, professional, and personal goals in a sustainable, feel-good way, with more confidence, ease, joy, fun, and pleasure.

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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning.
 
For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process.
 
I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella.
 
Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. 
 
I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! 
 
And now I'm retiring the course. 😮

I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™.
 
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.
 
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:
 
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)
 
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)
 
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.
 
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character.
 
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price.
 
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR

Here's to new beginnings!
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning. For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process. I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella. Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! And now I'm retiring the course. 😮 I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™. I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course. I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay: ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497) ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797) And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans. What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character. If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR Here's to new beginnings!
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it?

People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts.

Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do.

Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got.

Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?!

Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions:

What impression do you want to make?

How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you?

It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry.

When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should."

Here's what I want you to know:

You can have a great style that feels easy.

You can have a great style that fits your budget.

You can have great style in the body you have right now.

You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to.

You can have great style and be comfortable.

You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should."

Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes.

If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call.

If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it? People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts. Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do. Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got. Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?! Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions: What impression do you want to make? How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you? It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry. When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should." Here's what I want you to know: You can have a great style that feels easy. You can have a great style that fits your budget. You can have great style in the body you have right now. You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to. You can have great style and be comfortable. You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should." Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes. If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call. If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Why are we still doing this?⁠
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I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠
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On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠
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The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠
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Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠
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I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠
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I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠
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I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠
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I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠
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What is my business is how we work together.⁠
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My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠
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And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠
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Thoughts?
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Why are we still doing this?⁠ ⁠ I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠ ⁠ On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠ ⁠ The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠ ⁠ Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠ ⁠ I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠ ⁠ I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠ ⁠ I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠ ⁠ I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠ ⁠ What is my business is how we work together.⁠ ⁠ My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠ ⁠ And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠ ⁠ Thoughts?
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What ERA are you in?

I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives.

I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP.

This looks like asking myself:

Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?!

This week, that looked like asking myself:

Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water?

Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks?

Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep?

I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve.

I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement.

There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt.

A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better.

But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy.

And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP.

If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals.

You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
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What ERA are you in? I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives. I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP. This looks like asking myself: Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?! This week, that looked like asking myself: Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water? Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks? Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep? I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve. I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement. There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt. A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better. But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy. And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP. If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals. You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning.
 
For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process.
 
I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella.
 
Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. 
 
I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! 
 
And now I'm retiring the course. 😮

I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™.
 
I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course.
 
I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay:
 
⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497)
 
⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797)
 
And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans.
 
What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character.
 
If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price.
 
Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR

Here's to new beginnings!
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I have something to celebrate. Something that has taken what seems like forever. A sweet ending and a new beginning. For the last 13-ish months, I've been waiting for my Trademark applications to be approved. If you're unfamiliar, applying for and registering a trademark is a long process. I wanted ownership of the name of my style program, Main Character Closet™, and I also wanted ALL of my products and services to be renamed and branded under the "main character" umbrella. Since 2019, The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™, my vision and goal-setting online course, has been my signature program. Many people have gone through the course and go back to it year after year to dream and plan for the life they always wanted, all in a weekend. I'm proud of this program. Writing, recording, designing, and publishing took a whole year! A freaking YEAR! And now I'm retiring the course. 😮 I'm creating a new program, adding new content, and rebranding/redesigning/renaming The 48-Hour Planning Retreat™ to Main Character Year™. I'm officially in the final stages of trademark approval and want to celebrate with a special retirement discount of $200 off the original course. I've never offered a discount on the program, and this is the lowest price it's ever been. If you use your discount code, here's what you'll pay: ⭐ Standard Course Price: $297 (was $497) ⭐ VIP Upgrade Course Price, which includes the course and 90-minute coaching session with me): $597 (was $797) And to make the program even more accessible, I now offer payment plans through Affirm and AfterPay on ALL my programs, products, and services. They range from 0% interest for 4 payments, to extended plans. What do you want more of in your life by the end of 2023? In 2024? This program can help you get clear on what you want and the feel-good steps to make it happen. Because I want you to create a life that makes you feel like the main character. If you've been waiting to enroll in my program, this is the absolute best time at the lowest price. Enroll now (link in bio) and use code 48HOUR200OFF at checkout: https://alexis-buhrman.mykajabi.com/48HRPR Here's to new beginnings!
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it?

People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts.

Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do.

Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got.

Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?!

Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions:

What impression do you want to make?

How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you?

It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry.

When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should."

Here's what I want you to know:

You can have a great style that feels easy.

You can have a great style that fits your budget.

You can have great style in the body you have right now.

You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to.

You can have great style and be comfortable.

You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should."

Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes.

If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call.

If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Should. It's a dirty, dirty word, isn't it? People have asked me about upgrading their style game to attract more clients. I have thoughts. Here's the thing. People judge. We're wired to do it, even if we don't realize it or have mean intentions. I do it. You do it. People are going to judge you no matter what you do. Knowing that people judge, some people choose to upgrade their style and image to make a statement to potential clients. Some people are programmed from their former corporate roles to dress for the job you want, not the one you've got. Some people feel pressured to dress a certain way and push back. It makes them angry. If you're good at what you do, who cares what you wear?! Instead of asking, "Should I Dress Nicer in My Business to Attract More Clients?" here are two different questions: What impression do you want to make? How can your style reflect that in a way that feels good to you? It can feel like a total slog if you're focused on dressing for others rather than yourself. You might feel resentful or angry. When I work with clients, I want them to know that they can make a statement with their style without changing who they are to do it. It doesn't (and shouldn't) have to feel like a "should." Here's what I want you to know: You can have a great style that feels easy. You can have a great style that fits your budget. You can have great style in the body you have right now. You can have great style for your own joy and pleasure and one that makes the impression YOU want it to. You can have great style and be comfortable. You can have great style that doesn't feel like a "should." Personal style is PERSONAL, and I help my clients find one that checks all their preference boxes, doesn't feel like a "should," and makes them feel confident. So they can show up on camera, on stage, or at their next in-person event feeling like the main damn character in their clothes. If you need help in this area, I want to work with you. Send me a message, and let's book a call. If you want to learn more before we chat, visit www.maincharactercloset.com for all the program details and pricing/payment plan options. Link in bio.
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Why are we still doing this?⁠
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I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠
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On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠
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The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠
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Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠
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I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠
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I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠
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I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠
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I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠
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What is my business is how we work together.⁠
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My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠
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And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠
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Thoughts?
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Why are we still doing this?⁠ ⁠ I met someone on Zoom recently - a new connection in my network. I felt we didn’t really hit it off. No big deal, right?⁠ ⁠ On the call, we shared what we both do, and they told me they’re authentic because they don’t wear any makeup. They were the “real deal.” At the time, I clearly was wearing my signature liquid black eyeliner…because that's my thing and I will be buried in it. 🤣 Not really. I rarely wear makeup anymore, but if I do, it's black liquid eyeliner for the win.⁠ ⁠ The convo got me thinking, I’ve read a few comments online recently, shaming people and labeling them as "fake" for dying their hair, doing their nails, wearing certain styles of clothing, or getting hair extensions.⁠ ⁠ Just throwing this out there: if it's genuine to you, it's authentic. Personal style is personal. Just because I don’t do my nails, doesn’t mean I judge other people who do, or label them as less authentic. Other people's style choices are none of my business.⁠ ⁠ I touch up my roots not because I’m “inauthentic” but because I like the aesthetic of my dark hair. That’s a part of my personal style that I currently enjoy.⁠ ⁠ I understand how the patriarchy has impacted women and programmed them (us) with the message that we’re only as good as our appearance. We are judged by how we look. Women already have to deal with that judgment from culture at large, do we need it from other women, too?⁠ ⁠ I know that how we look can become an obsession for some. Even when I see that in others, they’re still people. Who am I to judge them?⁠ ⁠ I work with and style a lot of different people, and none of them deserved to be shamed or labeled as inauthentic, no matter their reasons for adornment. That's none of my business.⁠ ⁠ What is my business is how we work together.⁠ ⁠ My hope is that we can shift any focus on dressing/adorning for others to a focus on personal joy, comfort and pleasure. Letting personal enjoyment and how my clients want to feel be the guide and dropping things that don’t align with that goal and those feelings.⁠ ⁠ And just throwing this out there. You can still dye your hair. You are welcome here.⁠ ⁠ Thoughts?
6 days ago
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What ERA are you in?

I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives.

I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP.

This looks like asking myself:

Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?!

This week, that looked like asking myself:

Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water?

Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks?

Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep?

I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve.

I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement.

There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt.

A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better.

But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy.

And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP.

If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals.

You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
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What ERA are you in? I'm in a group coaching program, and the coach asked us this question. She wanted us to chose the ERA we want to be in at this moment in our lives. I decided that this is my VIP ERA. Not VIP in terms of money, but in how I show up for myself and treat myself like a VIP. This looks like asking myself: Is what I’m doing or thinking treating myself like a VIP? Do my thoughts and actions feel like business class? Economy class? Or worse, not even on the plane because I don’t have a ticket?! This week, that looked like asking myself: Is drinking another cup of coffee how I’d treat myself as a VIP or does my body really need water? Is sitting at the desk all day (because I can) treating myself like a VIP or do I need to take more breaks? Is working late (because I love this project) really good for me, or do I need to log off and get a good night's sleep? I like asking these questions because they don’t feel like an attack or criticism. They feel in alignment with my ERA. It’s looking at different areas of my life and identifying which ones I want to improve. I shared this exercise with another group of friends, and several identified that their clothes did not make them feel like VIPs. That was the area that needed improvement. There's research that shows that what we wear can influence our mood. No shocker there. You just feel good when you're wearing something you love - even jeans and a t-shirt. A lot of my clients have been waiting to lose weight before they buy clothes, because they think losing weight will make them feel better. But I argue that when you start treating yourself like a VIP and dressing the body you have now, THAT will make you feel better. That will increase your confidence and joy. And when you feel even a little bit better about yourself, and treat yourself like a VIP, it will give you that boost of motivation to look at all the ways you can treat yourself like a VIP. If you’re ready to find a style you love and upgrade your closet, I would love to spend 30 days with you, helping you achieve your goals. You can find all the details at www.maincharactercloset.com - link in bio. Or send me a DM!
1 month ago
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Hi. I'm Alexis. If you're new here, welcome to the lazy style party!⁠
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I'm a size-inclusive style coach. I teach women of all shapes and sizes how to find and shop for their style and turn random items into beautiful outfits with ease - so they can save time and money and feel confident in their clothes.⁠
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My clients come to me when they are long overdue for a closet upgrade.⁠
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They WANT to be comfortable, NEED to get dressed quickly and LONG to look put together and cute – whether it’s on Zoom, on stage, or picking up kids from school.⁠
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I created Main Character Closet™ FOR YOU! Here's how it works:⁠
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We meet over Zoom and spend half a day together finding your style - one that reflects who you are and the story you want to tell through your clothes: professional, put-together, confident, qualified, creative, or just damn keeewwwwwtttt!⁠
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I handpick 15-20 PAGES of items and brands based on your style goals, body and budget, and we'll spend 30 days together trying things on and shopping the winners. You can email and text me photos of your shopping cart before you buy, or take me with you while you shop!⁠
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I'll teach you how to put items you already have, and new ones you purchase together, so you have a closet full of grab-and-go outfits to wear.⁠
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You'll walk away feeling confident that you can shop for yourself, but if you ever feel stuck, your VIP Day includes a follow-up Zoom call, so you can really put what you learn into practice with my support.⁠
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Imagine how good it will feel to finally have a closet full of clothes that make you feel like the main damn character!⁠
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If your closet needs a little love or a full-on exorcism, I’ve got you. And this is going to be fun!⁠
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I'm filling up for 2023 because the holidays are around the corner. I know, it's only August, but I recommend clients give themselves plenty of time to shop and get things altered if needed, so this is an enjoyable, stress-free process.⁠
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If you're interested, send me a message and let's chat. You can also get all the details and transparent pricing on my website at www.maincharactercloset.com⁠
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Cheers and glad to have you here!
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Hi. I'm Alexis. If you're new here, welcome to the lazy style party!⁠ ⁠ I'm a size-inclusive style coach. I teach women of all shapes and sizes how to find and shop for their style and turn random items into beautiful outfits with ease - so they can save time and money and feel confident in their clothes.⁠ ⁠ My clients come to me when they are long overdue for a closet upgrade.⁠ ⁠ They WANT to be comfortable, NEED to get dressed quickly and LONG to look put together and cute – whether it’s on Zoom, on stage, or picking up kids from school.⁠ ⁠ I created Main Character Closet™ FOR YOU! Here's how it works:⁠ ⁠ We meet over Zoom and spend half a day together finding your style - one that reflects who you are and the story you want to tell through your clothes: professional, put-together, confident, qualified, creative, or just damn keeewwwwwtttt!⁠ ⁠ I handpick 15-20 PAGES of items and brands based on your style goals, body and budget, and we'll spend 30 days together trying things on and shopping the winners. You can email and text me photos of your shopping cart before you buy, or take me with you while you shop!⁠ ⁠ I'll teach you how to put items you already have, and new ones you purchase together, so you have a closet full of grab-and-go outfits to wear.⁠ ⁠ You'll walk away feeling confident that you can shop for yourself, but if you ever feel stuck, your VIP Day includes a follow-up Zoom call, so you can really put what you learn into practice with my support.⁠ ⁠ Imagine how good it will feel to finally have a closet full of clothes that make you feel like the main damn character!⁠ ⁠ If your closet needs a little love or a full-on exorcism, I’ve got you. And this is going to be fun!⁠ ⁠ I'm filling up for 2023 because the holidays are around the corner. I know, it's only August, but I recommend clients give themselves plenty of time to shop and get things altered if needed, so this is an enjoyable, stress-free process.⁠ ⁠ If you're interested, send me a message and let's chat. You can also get all the details and transparent pricing on my website at www.maincharactercloset.com⁠ ⁠ Cheers and glad to have you here!
1 month ago
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Feeling Frumpy...⁠
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When I work with clients in my Personal Style program, Main Character Closet™, the first step in the process is the prework. ⁠
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One of the questionnaires asks them to describe how they currently feel about their style.⁠
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And guess what word I see, time and again?⁠
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FRUMPY.⁠
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Hey, I get it! Lots of my clients were working from home during the pandemic. Some people I’ve worked with put on some weight and have resisted buying new clothes.

Some haven’t bought new clothes in years and everything needs an upgrade. The one word they use to describe how they feel that they all have in common is “frumpy.⁠”
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If you can relate, I want to work with you and help you find a style and clothes you love, in the body you have now. ❤️
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How would it FEEL to:⁠
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✅ Have a complete, head-to-toe closet overhaul in the next month?⁠

✅ Spend 4 hours with me finally finding a style you absolutely love, however you define it?⁠
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✅ Have me pick you curated clothing and brands that fit your body, budget and style goals?⁠
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✅ Get 30 days of email and text support as you shop and try things on and a 60-minute Zoom follow-up call to turn all those purchases into grab-and-go outfits?
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I have a handful of VIP day spots available in the next few months and if you think you’d like to snag one, send me a DM and let’s talk.⁠

Or visit www.maincharactercloset.com - all the program details and pricing are outlined there. Link in bio.
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I would love to help you find a style that makes you feel like the main damn character!
Feeling Frumpy...⁠
⁠
When I work with clients in my Personal Style program, Main Character Closet™, the first step in the process is the prework. ⁠
⁠
One of the questionnaires asks them to describe how they currently feel about their style.⁠
⁠
And guess what word I see, time and again?⁠
⁠
FRUMPY.⁠
⁠
Hey, I get it! Lots of my clients were working from home during the pandemic. Some people I’ve worked with put on some weight and have resisted buying new clothes.

Some haven’t bought new clothes in years and everything needs an upgrade. The one word they use to describe how they feel that they all have in common is “frumpy.⁠”
⁠
If you can relate, I want to work with you and help you find a style and clothes you love, in the body you have now. ❤️
⁠
How would it FEEL to:⁠
⁠
✅ Have a complete, head-to-toe closet overhaul in the next month?⁠

✅ Spend 4 hours with me finally finding a style you absolutely love, however you define it?⁠
⁠
✅ Have me pick you curated clothing and brands that fit your body, budget and style goals?⁠
⁠
✅ Get 30 days of email and text support as you shop and try things on and a 60-minute Zoom follow-up call to turn all those purchases into grab-and-go outfits?
⁠
I have a handful of VIP day spots available in the next few months and if you think you’d like to snag one, send me a DM and let’s talk.⁠

Or visit www.maincharactercloset.com - all the program details and pricing are outlined there. Link in bio.
⁠
I would love to help you find a style that makes you feel like the main damn character!
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Feeling Frumpy...⁠ ⁠ When I work with clients in my Personal Style program, Main Character Closet™, the first step in the process is the prework. ⁠ ⁠ One of the questionnaires asks them to describe how they currently feel about their style.⁠ ⁠ And guess what word I see, time and again?⁠ ⁠ FRUMPY.⁠ ⁠ Hey, I get it! Lots of my clients were working from home during the pandemic. Some people I’ve worked with put on some weight and have resisted buying new clothes. Some haven’t bought new clothes in years and everything needs an upgrade. The one word they use to describe how they feel that they all have in common is “frumpy.⁠” ⁠ If you can relate, I want to work with you and help you find a style and clothes you love, in the body you have now. ❤️ ⁠ How would it FEEL to:⁠ ⁠ ✅ Have a complete, head-to-toe closet overhaul in the next month?⁠ ✅ Spend 4 hours with me finally finding a style you absolutely love, however you define it?⁠ ⁠ ✅ Have me pick you curated clothing and brands that fit your body, budget and style goals?⁠ ⁠ ✅ Get 30 days of email and text support as you shop and try things on and a 60-minute Zoom follow-up call to turn all those purchases into grab-and-go outfits? ⁠ I have a handful of VIP day spots available in the next few months and if you think you’d like to snag one, send me a DM and let’s talk.⁠ Or visit www.maincharactercloset.com - all the program details and pricing are outlined there. Link in bio. ⁠ I would love to help you find a style that makes you feel like the main damn character!
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